I was driving to lunch with my wife during lunch break on a Friday when I suddenly said to my wife, “Honey, let’s play a “no blame” game for seven days starting from now.” It came out of my subconscious mind. Perhaps I became tired of blaming and of hearing it. Or for other reasons. [...]
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How to criticize and not be hated for it
Dale Carnegie wrote in his book How To Win Friends And Influence People that to criticize and not be hated for it, you should “call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.” One striking point for me is his advice on the use of “and” instead of “but” between your positive statement about the person who make [...]
Guiding Principles for Improved Life Quality – Part 2
I revealed two guiding principles for improved life quality: 20% of what we do bring 80% of the results; and being present is key to life. In this post you will discover two more life principles that have improved my life spiritually. Love what you do The inner purpose of all human beings is to [...]
The right mindset for goal achieving
If you have learned of the rule in goal setting, know what the “right goal” is, decide on the number of goals you should set at a time, choose between written goals and unwritten goals, and grasped the basic concept for goal evaluation, you have done your homework. Congratulations! With all these done carefully, you [...]
Written goals v. unwritten goals
Written goals or unwritten goals? Whichever you choose, it’s important that you have a clear mind and that your goals are aligned with your highest values if you don’t want to feel unsatisfied despite all the hard work. To have a clear mind mindful mediation helps and so does getting things out of your head, brain-vomiting onto [...]
Human beings are essentialist: Psychologist Paul Bloom
Why do we like an original painting better than a forgery? Psychologist Paul Bloom argues that human beings are essentialists — that our beliefs about the history of an object change how we experience it, not simply as an illusion, but as a deep feature of what pleasure (and pain) is. Watch his moving TED [...]
Julian Treasure’s ways to listen better
We spend 60% of our time listening but retain only 25% of what we hear and this may put ourselves and even our world at risk of falling into a dangerous slippery slope leading to misunderstanding, to chaos, to war, according to sound expert Julian Treasure in his TED Talk in July. He shares 5 ways [...]
Mind like Water: Definition and How-to’s
I heard of this phrase “Mind Like Water” for the first time when I was reading Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity by David Allen back in 2008. In karate there is an image that’s used to define the position of perfect readiness: “mind like water.” Imagine throwing a pebble into a still pond. [...]
How to avoid arguments, once and for all
You can’t win an argument. What you get out of it is the feeling that you’re right and the other wrong or that you’re inferior. As a result, you either hurt the other person’s pride and vice versa. Buddha said, “Hatred is never ended by hatred but by love.” Similarly Benjamin Franklin said, “If you [...]
Work smart!
Short answer from my personal experience — you need to work hard and at the same time, work hard on how to work smart. Let go of perfection. As a matter of fact, mistakes and failures are the greatest teacher. Get feedback on most, if not all, you’ve done and do listen attentively.
Two powerful questions that can change your life for the better
Not What makes me happy? Not what can I do to be successful? Not What can I do to become a millionaire? though What can I do to make 1 million dollars this year? may be a good one. The two powerful questions are… When I was 17, I read a quote that went something [...]
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