We all know that when we let go, we will have peace. The more we can let go, the greater peace we enjoy. You may also agree. (That’s probably why you found this post of mine. 
) But why do we hold on (to past mistakes, to broken relationship, to bitter past events, to guilt, to expectations, to your ambition, …)? Because it gives ourselves an identity of who we are.
You made a mistake that we can/should never forget. You want your children to become high achievers, which is a reasonable expectation, and therefore you are a reasonable person with good intention for your child. This is what you (want to) do and have and therefore who you are. But the truth is…
You are not your mistake, not your guilt, not your expectation, not your past nor future. Who you are is not what you did or had nor (want to) do or have. You are being, not your identity.
If what you hold on to brings you peace, it’s wonderful. If not and if you need peace, you need to let go. Lori of Tiny Buddha, who I consider a letting-go expert, suggests many ways and tools to help you let go. Her basic method for letting go which I read on Live Bold and Bloom is so appealing and resonates so well with my experience that I would like to share with you in its entirety.
…what helps me the most is frequently reminding myself that I can choose. I can choose to stop telling myself negative stories about the events in my life; I can choose to focus on what’s in front of me; I can choose to accept my circumstances instead of fighting everything so hard; I can choose to be good to myself, even if I’ve made mistakes; and I choose to see each moment as a new opportunity to let go and be free.
You may find helpful my post Happiness comes by choice, not by chance.
This “game called Dissolve meaning” by Morty Lefkoe could help you let you of negative feelings and transform your life.
Peace of mind isn’t a goal, but the life compass. And when you learn to let go especially of negative feelings, you will attain it effortlessly.
