I was driving to lunch with my wife during lunch break on a Friday when I suddenly said to my wife, “Honey, let’s play a “no blame” game for seven days starting from now.” It came out of my subconscious mind. Perhaps I became tired of blaming and of hearing it. Or for other reasons.
What I want to tell you about it is that this game has changed my life and my wife’s. We’ve become more solution-oriented and feel more positive in may aspects of life. It is a game that has empowered us to change, to respond (instead of react), to be happy.
Try it out and empower yourself, now! The rule of the game is simple.
Rule #1: Go seven days without blaming yourself, others or any event. Even thoughts of blame must be caught red-handed.
Rule #2: When you catch yourself or your thought blaming, take three deep breaths, don’t blame yourself for blaming, and ask yourself, what can I do instead of blaming? Your answer may be some actions you can take to try and change the situation. It may be acceptance of the event as it is and let your emotion flow without fighting it.
Rule #3: Smile when you’re done with the answer.
My parting word…
When you blame you give up your power to change, to respond, to be happy. Blaming is an option, a bad one. Other options will soon become visible to you when you stop playing the “Blame Game” and start playing the “No Blame Game”.
